Conflict vs. Harmony


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When our hearts are set on obedience, we can be sure of the needed wisdom to tell the difference between a conflict and a harmony. It may be a slow and painful process.

Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity (Revell, 2002), p. 51.

In music the distinction between discord and harmony is quite easy to recognize; but in relationships the difference is not always as clear-cut. No two people are always going to agree on every single point. If they do, then one of them is unnecessary. But when you disagree, there are two ways to deal with it: conflict or harmony. You can battle it out (conflict) and end up with a winner and a loser; or you can work together (harmony) and come out with two winners. The slow and painful process is in learning how to harmonize, for it always involves a degree of compromise, often on both sides. And sometimes it’s hard to know what can and cannot be compromised. But when you are obedient to God’s leading, according to what He has clearly stated in His Word, He gives the wisdom necessary to create harmony in the relationship.

via Conflict vs. Harmony on Dark Side of the Moon




Vashti ~ A Courageous Queen


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Many books and movies have been made on the story of Esther. Their treatment of Vashti varies from that of an insolent, self-possessed woman to a highly pious and modest woman who simply does not wish to be made the object of men’s lust. The Bible only records her actions, not her motives and attitudes, so what exactly are we to learn from her? Well, in an effort to discern our lesson for today, I have written my own version of her narrative. Continue reading

For This Cause

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“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church: for we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

Ephesians 5:25-33

For this cause…. Continue reading