For This Cause

Marriage 05

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church: for we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

Ephesians 5:25-33

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Flee As a Bird ~ Psalm 11

Flee as a bird

In the LORD put I my trust.
How say ye to my soul,
“Flee as a bird to your mountain”?  

Psalm 11:1

This verse is particularly applicable to my marriage and the counsel I’ve received lately on that subject. One counselor in particular has schooled me in all the reasons I have to leave my husband (i.e. flee to my mountain). Are the reasons legitimate? Yes, but I refuse to listen, for I have put my trust in the Lord, not in my husband.

My husband has failed me, and he will fail me again. I too have failed him and will do so yet again. We don’t fail because we want to; we fail because we are flawed human beings. But God is not like us. He is perfect, sinless, holy, righteous, faithful, and true. He cares about our marriage because He created it. I can trust Him with every part of my life, including my marriage, for He is working all things together for my good and His glory. If you were to read the pages of my journal, you would see me coming back to this same truth over and over again. Perhaps I sound like a broken record, but I need to hear it repeatedly because I tend to forget.

Dear reader, if you are married, chances are you have also felt like quitting on your marriage, or you do now, or you will eventually. Maintaining a strong and fulfilling marriage takes hard work. I can’t speak for everyone, but as for me, I had no earthly idea what I was getting into when I got married. But the harder the battle, the sweeter the victory. Conflict creates interest, as long as it doesn’t become the focus.

If you are unhappy in your marriage, perhaps it’s because you expect your spouse to make you happy. That is an unfair and selfish demand. Only Christ can fully, deeply, richly satisfy. I pray it does not take you as long to learn that as it did me.

I was going to keep this one to myself, but the Holy Spirit urged me to share, for He knows what needs are out there. I am not a marriage counselor, just someone who wants to encourage others to keep pressing on in the things that matter.

Written July 1, 2017
Photo taken on Skyline Drive, Virginia, 2014